Do you ever set overly lofty goals for yourself? I do. This is a very common occurrence in my life, I daresay that I am the queen of ridiculous goals. My current pet goal? Making all of 2011’s Christmas presents by hand, and by doing do saving tons of money and up cycling found resources such as bottles and old sheets. Brilliant? Well, in theory… until you find yourself on December 14 wanting to pull your hair out as you simultaneously take a baseball bat to your sewing machine and start jabbing people with crochet hooks. You know… Hypothetically speaking.
Who am I kidding, there is no hypothetical here, this is all me, right now, this very night. And since I am the queen of lofty unreachable goals, I am becoming very good at handling their inevitable failure. So if this holiday season, or at any point in life you find yourself forced, for your own sanity, to call it quits on a goal that will otherwise kill you, here are a few tips.
1) Grace, If you can’t find space for grace, you’re screwed. You aren’t a terrible failure across the board, you just bit off more than you can chew, again. So breathe, and repeat after me: “I don’t suck, I just can’t do it all.”
2) Go to confession: Ask a friend: “Hey I committed to this_____ but I think it may kill me if I don’t stop, what are your thoughts?” Chances are they will support you in your need to take a few burdens off your back.
3) Laugh it off, Oops, you did it again, you set a goal that had great intentions but was way above your head. Have a sense of humor about it.
4) Improvise! Like tonight, I am making a list, checking it twice, and then letting UPS bring my presents pre made and stress free.
5) Repeat step 1, and maybe have some wine, read a book, and re tackle your problem in the morning.
So I may have mostly wrote that for me, but God has a funny way of using my foibles (dang I love that word) to help others.
And if that doesn’t help, then maybe this quote will:
“Whenever Christmas begins to burden, it’s a sign that I’ve taken on something of the world and not of Christ. Any weight in Christmas has to be of this world.” Ann Voskamp
That has conviction written all over it, especially if Christmas is crushing you tonight.