Last night the Verkaik women gathered together for a girl’s night. We joined up to laugh, devour appetizers and catch up. We try to do this any time the “out of towners” come back for our summer visits.
However, last nights gathering had a unique purpose, to absorb the history of all the dishes, antiques and memories that fill up my Grandmother’s curio cabinets and shelves. To divide and receive, so that we may eventually take these heirlooms and integrate them into our own homes and stories.
There was a silent battle for milk glass, a confused googling over what exactly a “hummel” is and a hilarious roar when we found a little german sculpture of a naked couple intertwined in a passionate embrace. We decided that our unmarried cousins must use this as a cake topper…. come on ladies, please?
At one point my Aunt Ruth commented that all this colored glass and delft made up my Grandma’s life, spoke of her journey, her memories.
These dainty cups and delicate plates came from California, Vietnam and Washington. A few pieces remained from my great grandmother’s original journey across the Atlantic from The Netherlands to America.
There is something about a tea kettle that floated past lady liberty in an old wooden trunk that takes my breath away. So much hope, and adventurous fear contained in a small silver vessel.
We each left that night with a piece of my Grandmother’s story, but more than anything we could hold in our hands we all left with a deep sense that our most cherished gift was the gift being a woman of this family.
We’re daughters, nieces and granddaughters, whether by birth or marriage, who will carry this family into the future. We will retell and create the stories of “us.”
Of course we will cherish the vases and plates and retell their stories, but more than that we will carry and tend the flame of identity that is infused into our blood and bones.
Every time we gather I feel inner warmth and each time we part I feel less complete for the distance.
I’m honored to be a woman in this story, my grandmother’s second granddaughter, chosen to carry her legacy into the future. To glimpse of her life in delicate blue delft and share it, and so much more with my own daughter and granddaughters. I will teach my Daughter to love almond paste, appreciate delft and make blueberry buckle and pea soup.
Lineage, we all have a story that spans forward and backward from this very moment. We are all part of some collective “we” and if your family has left you story-less, I must remind you that we are brothers and sisters together you and I. Loved children of a God whose story includes all families in an infinitely redemptive tale that has neither a beginning, nor an end.
Today, may you see all that you carry and cherish, and may you share it into the future.